MY FRIENDS POST TOO MANY PICTURES OF THEMSELVES
Have you ever seen this image on your Facebook feed? Well, maybe not this image but one similar? It’s funny because the internet has become, as my mother so eloquently put it, a virtual shopping mall for predators. Funny thing about this extensive public catalog is that it was willing shared with the world. In the name of vanity or whatever, it has become normal. I too am guilty as one may easily find any number of images bearing my likeness. In fact, they abound. Still yet, a part of us feels funny about it when the images reach what we deem a narcissistic level. But how much is a quantifiable figure to officially determine our cyber friend’s level of self involvement?
DOES THIS POST OVERSHARE?
Perhaps it’s not that the number of images has to be cringe worthy for us to “hide” them. Perhaps it’s that the basic rules for online behavior have yet to be determined. Just as the dinner table has a set of cultural norms that we mostly, without question, abide, I think the internet will, or at least should, be the same. For instance, your best lulu lemon yoga pants may not be the most appropriate for Catholic Mass. Sharing the intimate details of your emotional turmoil may not be the best topic to discuss with the friendly grocery store cashier. We don’t tell NSFW jokes to children. There are hundreds of basic cultural boundaries; understood norms of propriety. These things come easily to most of us in a tangible real life interaction. But what happens when our cyber world evolves quicker than folks can learn virtual manners?
Good question. Folks look foolish. Other folks harshly deem their cyber brothers foolish looking. Folks end up with busted egos. Inflated egos. Its a dangerous landscape. Mostly because the standards have yet to be set. It’s somewhat uncharted territory. Who should have the authority to write such a handbook? It’s strange because online behavior is actually a very popular topic amongst the latest psychology publications.
IS THIS THE APPROPRIATE PLACE?
Perhaps it could be simplified. Perhaps it’s all about venue. Why don’t folks consider their Facebook audience before posting? Think of all those folks in your friends list. If they were all at a party, would you waltz in and blurt of that thing you are about to post? Is there a more appropriate venue for this topic? Is there an anonymous online message board/support group that might be a better place for this query? Neat thing about the internet is that there are venues for all types. Types I don’t even want to consider and even types that cater to my need to see the vain selfy pics.
A JUDGMENT-FREE SELF PORTRAIT ZONE: CHICTOPIA
I am reminded of a scene at our computer recently.
“What is that? Is she just posting a bunch of pictures of herself? Do people follow this?” my boyfriend asks all confused as he looks at a popular fashion blog that I follow.
“No,” I speak up defensively ” It’s the new format for fashion blogging. It’s not pictures of her. It’s pictures of her outfit. Everyone does it.”
“Oh,” he says. His eyes light up with revelation as he points to the tab on the screen “OOTD. Outfit Of The Day”
“Yep,” I smiled. “That’s so the rest of the blog is separated from the pictures of her clothes, in case her readers aren’t interested in the vanity photo shoot, which I can assure you, they are.”
They are interested because they are looking for inspiration and an anticipated cost. The OOTD provides value in this way.
Maybe your self portrait posting cyber buddies are not self involved but rather outfit involved. For years, I’ve flipped through the pages of street style books, Pinterest, urban weeds, and online online style diaries, and only recently discovered Chictopia.
In addition to providing an abundance of real life practically applied style ideas, this is an online community a self portrait taking fashion obsessed folks. Chictopia is a place where the OOTD is never judged. So the next time you consider if your Facebook feed really needs to see your new pink pumps, consider paying a visit to a place where a warm welcome awaits your pics!